I NEVER GET TIME TO MYSELF….SOUND FAMILIAR?
So my guess is if you are reading this right now, you probably have said this to yourself once or twice, or maybe even a million times.
I know personally, my life within my career was extremely busy, and then I had twins, and everything went into overdrive. As a new mom, I never got time to myself but quickly changed that around and here is how.
Let’s first clear up a common misconception.
YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE – SO ARE OTHERS.
As a new mom, it is easy to fall to the assumption that your time is more valuable because you now have this human that you are responsible for, and it is important to always put your child’s needs above others, but my point is this.
Just because that friend or relative may not have children or doesn’t understand what your life looks like right this moment, doesn’t make their time not valuable.
Their time is just as valuable as yours. So respect and honor that, and expect the same in return.
Truth is, whether you have children, or you don’t have children, your time is valuable. Everyone has the same 24 hours in the day and everyone is busy with their own priorities. It is not for us to judge one another, but rather be there for one another with an empathetic heart.
You just don’t know what someone else may be going through or struggling with, and it is our job to make time for those that are most important to us if you value the relationship.
BUT I NEVER GET TIME TO MYSELF
Well, that ends NOW. Just as you take the time for others, and prioritize those relationships, the first person you need to make sure every day that you take care of is YOU.
We spend so much time caring for others, whether that be our children, our partners, our parents, relatives, friends, that often times the last person to get any time and attention is ourselves.
Glennon Doyle said it best…..
“Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”
This is not selfish, it is self-care.
Because if you continue to disappoint yourself, you are the one that is going to be leading a life full of frustration and unhappiness, and it also affects every single person you care for.
SO HOW DO I TAKE CARE OF ME?
So instead of running around like a chicken without a head taking care of everyone else but yourself, stop, and think in that exact same moment, what can I do right now, to take care of me.
Maybe it is setting a boundary with your time.
Maybe it’s a warm bath.
Maybe it’s watching that funny movie.
Maybe it is having that hard conversation with someone you love.
Maybe it is making yourself that extra special dinner.
Maybe it is reading that book you always wanted to get to.
Maybe it is figuring out what lights you up and that unique gift that only you have and building your own business around it.
Remember we all have the same 24 hours in the day. It is how YOU utilize it and make it work for you that makes all the difference.
Instead of saying I never get time for myself, prioritize your time and make the time for yourself.
You are worth the effort.
It is ok to ask for help.
And you, my friend, deserve it.